I’ve coached a lot of guys on how to improve their dating lives, and many of these men are curious to learn how to become successful with younger women.
So here are a few proven techniques for mature guys who want to attract younger women:
1. Convey Youth
How you convey your age is more important than the number of years you’ve been on this planet.
By this, I mean be happy, have a youthful smile, and enjoy life. And certainly look at your jeans. (Yes, I’m serious!)
In fact, go and look at some new jeans this week. I always see older guys wearing totally unfashionable jeans, and it’s one of the most obvious indicators that they have an old, out-of-touch mentality.
Also take a cold, hard look at your hairstyle and wardrobe, and look to update them a bit.
2. Be Fun
I often coach older guys who are a bit “too serious.” Picture four young women out on Friday night, having a good time, relaxing after a big week at work. These girls just want to relax and socialize.
If a guy starts talking with them about serious topics that LOWER their energy level, it’s just not going to fly.
Women generally like older guys because they provide much more interesting conversation, and because they’re not predictable and one-dimensional like younger guys often are.
The typical 25-year-old woman is more emotionally mature than the guys her age, and for this reason, she often finds herself more intrigued by older men.
But there is a time and a place for being serious.
Imagine what it feels like when you go from working hard at your job for months on end, and then taking a holiday and kicking back on a beach. This is the laidback, carefree type of energy you want to bring to your interactions with younger women.
If you are having trouble lightening up and chilling out when you get involved in conversations with women, take a closer look at your reality and your lifestyle.
If your reality and lifestyle are completely filled with work and seriousness, then it can be pretty difficult to instantly switch into “fun” mode when you’re out meeting women.
“Serious” guys tend to watch serious movies and television shows (including a lot of TV news and politics, which can be quite depressing), and listen to music that isn’t in tune with the tastes of the younger generation.
I suggest you switch up the types of shows, movies and music that you normally feel comfortable with.
Try some TV shows like “Scrubs,” “Curb Your Enthusiasm,” and “The Office,” which aren’t particularly deep or meaningful but are laugh-out-loud funny.
Buy some magazines that are sexy, playful and fun. (Leave them out on your living room table — they will create cool conversational topics when younger women visit your place.)
Listen to some music that is new, and maybe a little “trashy.” The hot younger women know these bands.
This also gives you fun conversational topics to talk to women about. That beautiful 25-year-old at the bar might know a surprising amount about politics, but that doesn’t mean she wants to talk about it when she’s unwinding with a few drinks.
Save the deeper discussions for once you’re dating her. Her first impression of you should be fun, playful and youthful.
Some guys need to make a concerted effort to add some “light stuff” into their reality, so that being playful and relaxed around women isn’t such a challenge.
Also, when you talk to your friends, make an effort to not dwell on the serious stuff, and get in the habit of just being able to talk about stuff that is not that important and does not matter in the big picture of things.
3. Go Out
As guys get older, their social circles tend to shrink. Your friends get married, have kids, and are immersed in their own lives. Or maybe you’ve moved recently and haven’t developed much of a social scene in your new city. Perhaps you just don’t go out much anymore, because you feel a little too “old” to be hanging around at the bars and clubs like you used to.
This may seem obvious, but you must get out of the house and make an effort to socialize.
Maybe combine your socializing with an interest or hobby. Personal development groups always seem to be filled with attractive women.
If you’ve always been shy, then it’s time to shake that off and become more social. Make it one of your goals to make at least FIVE PEOPLE feel good about themselves, every week.
This will lead to you creating a much broader SOCIAL NETWORK, and you will dramatically expand your chances of meeting the sexy younger woman who will become your next girlfriend.
Break any patterns of judging people, or staying in your shell, and make an effort to say hello and make friendships.
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to do, once you get started!
Before I finish, I want to give you a SUPER IMPORTANT tactic that I always use when I’m out socializing and meeting younger women.
Before I explain the technique, let me tell you about the #1 MISTAKE that men make, in their efforts to date young women:
These guys FRAME their age the wrong way. They believe that their age is a HANDICAP — a reason for younger women to reject them — and so they try to CONCEAL their age and evade the issue.
If the average 40-year-old guy is talking to a 25-year-old woman, and she asks him how old he is, he’ll do one of two things:
1. The older guy will mislead her about his age, or flat-our lie about it. But she can tell he’s not being truthful. This makes him look foolish and dishonest, and makes her think that the age difference IS something she should wory about.
2. Or, he’ll try to crack a joke about how “ancient” he is. He’ll say something like, “I’m old enough to be your father.” This just sounds creepy!
Now, I want you to consider a different way to play it. You can turn the tables and make your age a reason for her to want you!
When you’re talking to a woman who is obviously significantly younger than you, don’t wait for her to ask YOU about your age.
Instead, get the “age issue” out in the open right away, and ELIMINATE IT.
Here’s what I said playfully to a young hottie last night, within 3 minutes of meeting her:
ME: “So, I’m going to guess you’re…22.” (I always guess a few years younger than what I really think she is.)
HER: “I’m 25.”
ME: “25? Wow, I’m 35. I don’t know if this could ever work out between us — the woman I normally date are pretty sophisticated and experienced…but it does seem like you’re pretty ‘together’ for a girl your age…”
That’s a powerful way to frame the interaction. Right from the start, I’m assuming that she’s interested in a relationship with me…but I’m not sure that SHE can measure up to MY standards, because I usually date “sophisticated women”…and I’m giving her a chance to PROVE herself to me.
At this point, I’ll start teasing her and “challenging” her with playful conversation. I’ll talk to her about travel, or music…art…good restaurants…movies…(topics that I know a lot about, and am excited about). I TEASE her a little when she “shows her age” and can’t relate to the things I mention, and give her little verbal REWARDS when she proves that she can relate to me on MY level.
But, I NEVER make her feel that I’m “sold” on her.
If it turns out we both love the same semi-obscure band, or movie, or we both love to travel to the same spots…I don’t get all excited and make it seem like she’s won me over.
I’ll give her a playful smirk, and I’ll say, “Hmm, I may have under-estimated you. But here’s I’m sending her a message: to date a guy like me, you’ve got to “measure up.I also know (and firmly believe) that by spending time with me, younger women are going to enjoy new experiences and gain valuable knowledge.
It’s actually quite easy to learn how to attract and date younger women once you’ve learned the right set of techniques. Want to learn how the world’s best pickup artists “cracked the code” and figured out the ultimate blueprint for succeeding with younger women? Visit the Secrets Of Dating Younger Women site and learn these secrets for yourself.
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