Lately, several parents asked: “Where is my teen’s anger coming from?” Teenagers, like adults, experience stress every day. The stubborn and argumentative teen is fighting for independence and less control by his or her parents. An angry teen is battling with daily difficulties and is trying to make sense of emotional issues, such as:
changes in their bodies
trying to establish an identity
dealing with friends
positive and negative peer pressure
school demands
separation or divorce of parents
being accused of something they did not do
being treated unfairly
not getting a chance to voice their opinion
chronic illness or death of a loved one
taking on too many activities
parents’ high expectations
It’s no surprise that our teens might become overloaded with stress. Teenagers have poor coping skills, and getting angry is the only way they know how to avoid feeling sad, hurt, or afraid.
Teens also have unreasonable expectations, especially if they are used to getting what they want when they want it. If this does not happen, or they realize that things are not always within their control – they get angry.
Their anger can take many forms – some teens might repress their anger and withdraw, while others get defiant, destructive or turn to alcohol and drugs.
Various situations can bring out feelings of anger. Parents are often caught by surprise and react by either yelling or arguing back, or punishing their teen for showing their anger.
Instead, parents need to see this show of anger or rage as a signal that their teen is battling with or facing a situation they cannot handle on their own, or is overwhelmed by the demands of his or her daily live.
Fortunately parents have many options to help their teens through their frustration and cope with everyday pressure:
Ask your teen what unresolved conflict he or she is facing
Listen to your teen
Focus on his or her feelings
Understand the situation from your teen’s perspective
Help your teen work towards a solution
Show your teenager that you care
Unresolved issues can escalate to physical violence, addictions, and psychosomatic disorders. This can devastate your teens life by destroying relationships, clouding effective thinking, and ruining his or her future. Seek professional help for your teen, yourself, and or your family if necessary.
What makes Christina different? Where is her passion coming from?
Let’s face it – parenting a teenager is difficult.
Christina Botto has learned the secret to having a great relationship with your teenager. When she and her teenage daughters began having problems, the communication gap and arguments were simply
She knew there had to be a solution to the problems she was having with her teenagers.
Christina Botto set out to find a way to communicate with her daughters that was not threatening and built trust between her and the difficult teens. When she used the information the relationship became more balanced. A mutual respect began to grow between her and her daughters and the difficulties were few.
When other parents noticed the great results of Christina Botto’s plan they began asking her to be a mediator between them and their teens.
Soon Christina realized she would not be able to help all of the parents that need the benefit of her successful strategies. She decided to gather all of her knowledge and write an informative book on the subject. Help Me With My Teenager! A Step-by-Step Guide for Parents that Works is a gold mine of information that shows parents of teenagers what they need to do in order to have a great relationship with their teenager.
The benefit of Christina Botto’s strategies has helped hundreds of parents to repair their relationship with their teenager and bring harmony to their home.
“This guide is a no nonsense “how-to” that is likely to save many relationships. Being reminded to be careful of what to say, how to act, and react, is worth its weight in gold. If you need a little guidance, a friendly whisper in the ear about what works and what doesn’t, Christina Botto is here for you…A Must Read!” Heather Froeschl, BookReview.com
Christina’s website Parenting A Teenager offers free tips for parents of teenagers plus many other tools to help with all aspects of parenting teenagers.
Christina Botto was born in Vienna, Austria. At age 25, Christina moved with her family to the United States.
Christina earned a bachelor of science in business administration from the Hotel and Business Management College in Vienna. She is a member of The National Writers Association and the National Parent Teacher Association.